Potty Training Twins or Two Children Close in Age

Parents who have twins, higher order multiples, or two children close in age sometimes believe that they should train their children at the same time.

While this may seem like a time-saver, it doesn't always work out that way, as your children may approach readiness at different times.

It's always easier to work with a child who is ready and able to tackle the new skill.

Don't compare your children to each other or to any other children.

When they start training and when they finish it has nothing whatsoever to do with their brilliance or abilities – it simply has to do with their toileting readiness.

When the time comes for them to learn to tie their shoes, ride a bike, or write in cursive, they will likely master these skills – as they will with many others – at different times.

Avoid comparing their skills or commenting in public about the advanced skills of one child over another.

It's likely that if one child is ready sooner than the other, that child will become ready more quickly just by watching and learning from her sibling.

So keep your eyes open to watch for signs that readiness is taking a leap forward.

Purchase at least two potty chairs, because you'll want an accessible potty for each child whenever the urge strikes.

Also, it is likely that when one is sitting on the potty, the other will think it's a great idea. In addition, once you get in the routine of using the potty after meals, before bed, and in the morning, they won't have to wait and take turns, which could invite arguments or accidents.

It can be helpful to set up a play area in the bathroom, with toys or games, so that if one child is using the potty, the other can be patient and happy while waiting for the other.

Keep in mind that every child learns differently. Just because a certain method works perfectly for one child doesn't mean it will work for another.

Your children may require slightly different approaches as you go through the potty training process, so be open, attentive and, of course, patient.