Question from a frustrated single mom:

My name is Charlotte. I am a single mom and I have a child going on 5years old and recently she has started to regress when it comes to going to the bath room she was completely potty trained now for the last 2 years and now she has started acting as if she is not a child going on 5 that she is going on one how do I get her to stop peeing and pooping her pant and start getting her to use the potty in stead please help me I feel like a failure to my kids as a parent.

Sincerely

Charlotte

My Response to Charlotte's Question:

Charlotte ,

First and foremost, this regression does not mean you are a failure as a parent.  The reason your child has started doing this is probably because there has been some change in her life.  Something has caused her to regress.  Have you had a change in your life?  Has she had a change in her life?  Do you have any idea what the change may be that may be causing her distress?

Young children are unable to articulate their feelings as easily as we can, so sometimes they will communicate their feeling through their actions. 

If you can identify the change, talk to her about it.  Address the feelings that are resulting from the change and hopefully things will return back to normal.

In the meantime, don't over react to the regression i.e. do not react with anger or punish her for this.  Provide lots of positive reinforcement - you may want you use potty charts - we have free printable potty training charts available or you can purchase some potty training charts  and potty training stickers as well.  Put these in the bathroom; they will provide the visual positive reinforcement.

Also you should check with your child's pediatrician - to make sure that it is not a medical or physiological issue - and get confirmation that this is indeed behavioral.

I hope this helps you out.  Please let us know how things work out.

Have a great day.

Narmin

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