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Please help! (Unregistered Guest)
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 30, 2006 - 11:32 am: | |
Hello
I have a 26 month old daughter who has been potty training since just after her 2nd birthday. She was fantastic for about a month without a single accident for around 2 weeks but seems to have drastically regressed since then. For the past month or so she's wetting herself usually 2 or 3 times a day, but I think she's doing it deliberately and am not sure how to tackle it. We try to sit her regularly and give her the choice of potty or toilet but it makes no difference, if she gets told off for anything or if we are dealing with her baby brother (7 months) she'll wee herself. If she doesn't want to do something or go somewhere she'll wee and we haven't had a car journey for a couple of weeks where she's not had a wet car seat. Yesterday she actually did a poo on the kitchen floor, she has never had a poo accident before.
I thought about using a sticker chart but am not sure whether she's old enough to understand it? I really don't want to have to go back to nappies or pullups because I feel that she can do it and she knows she's doing wrong and that she is doing it on purpose. We have tried to ignore her and to just clean it up and ask her to go to the potty next time but it doesn't seem to be working.
Any suggestions would be fantastic, we're getting to the end of our tether with this and the amount of washing is unbelievable. :o(
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Narmin Parpia
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 01:30 pm: | |
To: Mom of 26 month old daughter
Your instincts are probably right - - it sounds like your daughter is using potty training as an opportunity to be rebellious. But before I assume that's the case, if you haven't already done so, be sure to talk to your pediatrician. Your daughter could possibly be suffering from a medical condition.
Assuming it is simple rebellion, rewards are a great place to start. You mentioned stickers and charts and expressed concern that your daughter may not understand the concept. She will probably grasp the concept just fine but will she be motivated by stickers and a chart? You want to chose a reward system that will excite and entice her. Does she like stickers? Is she proud of showing her work? (Be it art, physical accomplishments, or performances?) When using some stickers and charts you can select a milestone reward that is a special activity or toy that she would earn after staying dry for a designated period of time or after a designed number of successful visits to the potty. You have the ability to tailor the system to your daughter. She would see the reward displayed on the chart and she would see the progress she makes each day as she comes closer and closer to earning that reward.
Another thing to consider is implementing parenting with consequences. Ignoring or disciplining usually won't work. Again you have flexibility with this technique. The consequence could be requiring her to clean up her own mess. It could be elimination of her favorite activity such as TV, bicycle riding, or playing with a doll, etc. The key is to be consistent and persistent, and escalate the consequence if necessary. Be flexible and adjust the consequences until you find one that works.
Good luck and please let us know how things progress.
Narmin |
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