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Margie (Unregistered Guest)
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 04, 2006 - 03:53 pm: | |
My son just turned 4 years old the end of August. He is completely potty trained for bowel movements, and 3/4 trained for peeing. He is not going potty by himself, but does ask to go probably 4 or 5 times a day. However, in between asking, he may completely soak a pull-up, and never come to us to ask to go! He has never been bothered by being wet, even as a baby. I thought this a small blessing as a new mom as he never woke up in the middle of the night from being wet, but now it has come back to haunt me. He is more than ready to start a 4K program, but they require complete potty training, and he simply will not ask to go potty every time he has to pee. We even switched over to the pull-ups that are supposed to make him feel wet, but no success, he will still pee in them whenever he feels like it. However, his pullup is completely dry every morning when he wakes up.
Anything else we can do to get him to ask to go potty EVERY time he needs to pee? I am not sure if he is just lazy, but we always tell him he is a good boy and give him plenty of verbal praise when he asks to go and his pullup is dry.
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Narmin Parpia
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 01:24 am: | |
Hi Margie,
This may not be what you want to hear, but you need to eliminate all diapers - - including pull-ups, including the type that feel wet. In my opinion your son is using the pull-up because he can. It's that simple.
I recommend you immediately switch to cloth training pants. Or you might want to try some of the fun, character underwear. I know you are probably dreading the accidents and the clean-ups, but you might be pleasantly surprised. I have heard from many moms that once they made the decision and stuck to it, it wasn't as bad as they thought it would be. And remember, it won't last forever.
Another recommendation I have is to explain to your son what you expect from him at this point forward. Explain to him that each time he has an accident there will be consequences. For example, if he has an accident while playing a video game or watching TV, he does not get to return to that activity until he can demonstrate he is willing to take a potty break when needed. Parenting with consequences requires that you know your son's currency. What makes him tick? What would motivate him? What are the special privileges he has? Link those privileges to "no accident" days and you'll be well on your way to solving the problem.
Good luck, and please, let us know how it goes.
Narmin |
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