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Anonymous
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 12:30 pm: | |
Hi Narmin,
We used your program and the Scotty doll with our 2 1/2 yr old son. It worked really well, we are so pleased with how it and we taught him to use the potty! We are having a problem now (obviously). He has been "trained" for over a month and he even trained himself at nighttime and wanted to go in the potty in the early morning so he could stay dry. We weren't expecting to have total nighttime success like this so soon. So we eliminated the nighttime big boy underpants (aka Pullups). He remained dry and doing his routine. We started to have a struggle with keeping him in his room (he always wanted to come out and use the potty). So we put a childproof door knob cover on his door and told him to call us if he needed to use the potty. He wasn't happy about this. He started peeing on the floor in his room! Even if we take the cover off the door, he still will pee on his floor! We're trying to use consequences (taking his favorite toy out of his room), but it seems to not be having any effect. He's sad, of course, but still peeing on the floor. This only happens if he's in his room. When he's up, he's 100% dry. I should say too, that he is pulling his pants down and peeing in his room, then he calls us and says he peed. Any suggestions?! |
Narmin Parpia
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 18, 2006 - 01:59 pm: | |
To: Mommy with bedroom challenge
Thank you for your post. I'm happy to hear Potty Scotty worked so well for you and your son. It's great to hear he's 100% dry when he's running around throughout the day.
Unfortunately you're now faced with a different challenge. It seems your son has rebelled against your efforts to keep him in his room at night. It's a difficult parenting dilemma - distinguishing between when your child is stalling at bedtime or when he has a real need. It often takes us parents a few tries to get it right, so don't feel bad.
Moving forward I would recommend trying the following actions. First, make sure your son realizes it is expected that he leave his room to potty. Give him a "potty allowance" of sorts - - permission to leave his room once during the night to potty, no questions asked. Then increase the consequences for the undesired behavior. Make sure you communicate just what the consequence will be, and make sure it is something that he truly cares about. Make sure it is his currency.
If that doesn't work you might explain to him that he is going to have to go back to wearing diapers. You see, he may have entered into an undesireable phase of self-mastery where he's simply going potty in his room to show that he has ultimate control. Putting him back into diapers will allow you to regain control while communicating to him the importance of going potty where he is supposed to. And finally, you might want to talk to a counselor. You are now dealing with a behavioral issue, not a potty training issue. Control issues can become all-consuming, affecting every aspect of his day. Now is the time to take corrective action.
Best of luck to you. And please let us know how it all works out.
Narmin |
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