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Kelli Taylor (Unregistered Guest)
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 18, 2006 - 02:05 pm: | |
I am a nanny for a three year and a half year old who is not yet potty trained. She does not even know when she is going potty. She will sit on the potty and not even feel the pee coming out. She also does not know if she has had an accident. Is this just stubborniness or is it a medical problem? |
Narmin Parpia
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 31, 2006 - 12:53 pm: | |
Hi Kelli,
It is difficult to say just what the problem might be without a comprehensive look at your little girl's daily routine. It might be that she just isn't ready to potty train yet. Knowing the right time to train doesn't depend on the child's age, but rather the developmental milestones that have been reached.
It is also possible that other factors are interferring. Major changes in a child's environment can affect a child's readiness. Factors include a new sibling, divorce, a move, change in school, childcare provider, or even just a shift in daily routine like suddenly eating out a lot. Kids are resilient but in today's fast paced world we forget how important it is to make sure that our children have time to relax and learn at their own pace. We rush from here to there expecting our little ones to adapt to public restrooms, holding the urge when we're traveling from point "A" to point "B", or "go quickly" because we need to leave the house for our next journey.
And yes, it could be medical or even emotional. A doctor should evaluate her and see if there are any other areas of her development that are delayed. For instance, does she easily play and interract with others? Is she comfortable with sensory play (play-doh, sand, water, etc)? Are her verbal communication and language skills where they should be for her age? Does she resist or refuse to do other tasks she's asked to do?
I definitely recommend at least bringing the issue up with her pediatrician to get his/her recommendation. Although the issue could resolve itself you don't want to wait until she is five or six to ask a doctor and then learn she really needs help.
I wish you the best of luck. Please let us know how it works out.
Narmin |
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