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Anonymous
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 08:46 am: | |
my child is 4 yrs. old and still is not potty trained. sometimes she tells us she has to go, but most of the time she doesn't and pees in her pull up. we often ask her to go and she says "no" or "nothing is coming down". we tried all the rewards and she goes until she gets the reward then goes back to peeing or pooing in her diaper. she is embarrased to be changed in front of other kids and most of the time doesn't even tell us she went in her diaper. she is an intelligent girl who loves to have fun, but never stops her playing to go potty. instead she will get quite and zone off and go in her diaper. at one time she was potty trained over night, but not during the day. that has also turned for the worse...she wakes up with a full diaper every night. in my eyes she went backwards in this whole process. my wife works 3-4 days per week and i work 5-6 days per week. we recently had a new baby (5 months old). do you think the whole process of my wife being pregnant and the new baby around has caused her to regress? we have been trying now for 1 1/2 years now and we are out of answers.
please help!! |
Narmin Parpia
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Username: Narmin
Post Number: 4
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 06:09 pm: | |
Your daughter definitely seems to have been impacted by the new addition to your family. I say this because you indicated your daughter has gone backwards rather than made progress. Potty training is difficult enough. But when you add a major change like a new baby into the mix you have an extra challenge.
There is hope though. You mentioned that your daughter will respond to rewards and will go in the potty until she earns the reward. More importantly you mentioned that after earning the reward she goes back to peeing and pooing in her diaper. This tells me that she knows what needs to be done but she is choosing not to do it.
My question to you is "Why is she still wearing a diaper at that point?" It is important to put her in big kid underwear (not pull-ups) as a part of the training process.
The problem with leaving your daughter in a pull-up is, you are sending her a mixed signal. She knows it is O.K. to pee and poo in her diaper (or pull-up), but now you are asking her to go in the potty. So, if you are letting her wear the diaper, you are sending a mixed signal - - one that says it is O.K. to use the diaper.
So, it really is that simple. Eliminate the diaper. Make a big deal out of putting her in big kid underwear. Use a reward system that has proven successful in the past. And don't return to diapers.
One other tip, make sure your child care provider is consistent with your efforts.
Hang in there. You are sooooo close!
Good luck, and please let me know how it works out.
Narmin |
Gigi Colley
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Username: Frustrated_in_frankfurt
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2009
| | Posted on Monday, April 27, 2009 - 08:59 am: | |
My daughter is 4 years old and completely resistant to potty training. We've been "training" her for about 2 years and nothing seems to work. She's pretty good when it comes to going pee, but she will only poop in her panties. We've tried talking to her about it, offering rewards, fighting about it, you name it and we've done it. I've tried going back to diapers and having her tell me when she's ready to be a big girl but that didn't work. I've tried just putting her in panties then offering rewards but that just resulted in throwing away many pairs of underwear. I've gone the "tough love" approach where we make her clean herself up because we're sick of doing it but then it just ends poorly with her crying and us frustrated. The last thing we want it to traumatize her. We understand this is her thing, she's the only one who has control over it but she's more than old enough to handle it. We've had a new baby and recently moved to Germany all within the past 10 months. I know regression is normal when large life events occur but she never was trained well enough to regress. When will the progression begin? Do I just throw up my hands and let her figure it out herself? I'm really at the end of my rope with this. Can you please help me?!?! |
Jennifer (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Monday, June 15, 2009 - 12:48 pm: | |
My soon to be three year old is having trouble with the potty training. She will go to the bathroom if we put her on the potty every half hour but it is really cutting in to house work and things she wants to do. I have tried everything and but she refuses to tell us when she needs to go. She will pee in her panties and then want a treat for going potty and telling us. We keep telling her potty in the potty not on the floor, not outside. she says it with us but still refuses to go. please help she will be having her b-day in three weeks and I really would like it if the B-day girl can have fun at her own party insted of going to sit on the potty every half hour. Please help she really misses the park and I keep telling her that she has to pee in the potty and it still dosnt work. |
Monika Sturm
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Username: Monika
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 08, 2009 - 07:57 pm: | |
Hello Jennifer;
The issue you are having is that your daughter hasn't learned to initate the activity because you have been in control of that part. She knows where to potty and what to expect when she does well but does not know how to go about pottying on her on. A way to help her to learn to initate the activity is by using The Potty Training in One Day Method (aka Dr Phil's Potty Training Method) this method utilizes a wet-on-demand doll, that the child actually teaches to go potty and thus developes the initiation concept as well as learns the steps and outcome.
This method should clear up the issues that your child is having difficulty with, as long as the underlying cause is not due to a lack of having the ability to sense the urge of having to go potty. If that is the cause of some of her issues I recommend that you review our page that deals with physiological development (bladder and bowel control).
To help you determine which case fits your child try looking over the helpful information on ourPotty Training Resistance - Details.
I'm pretty sure that after reviewing the links I suggested that you and your child will begin to make headway in this matter and not have to make so many sacrifices to your quality of living.
Best Wishes,
The Potty Training Concepts Team |
Stacy (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Saturday, December 19, 2009 - 09:24 pm: | |
My 3 yr. old son will not poop in the potty. He will pee in the potty and actually is dry during naps and at night most of the time. His resistance is just to pooping in the toilet. We have tried rewards and tried taking everything away but it does not matter to him. When he has to poop he asks for a pull up and puts it on himself and goes in the bathroom. If we take away the pull up option he holds his poop in for days. Any ideas? |
