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Anonymous
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 08:46 am: | |
my child is 4 yrs. old and still is not potty trained. sometimes she tells us she has to go, but most of the time she doesn't and pees in her pull up. we often ask her to go and she says "no" or "nothing is coming down". we tried all the rewards and she goes until she gets the reward then goes back to peeing or pooing in her diaper. she is embarrased to be changed in front of other kids and most of the time doesn't even tell us she went in her diaper. she is an intelligent girl who loves to have fun, but never stops her playing to go potty. instead she will get quite and zone off and go in her diaper. at one time she was potty trained over night, but not during the day. that has also turned for the worse...she wakes up with a full diaper every night. in my eyes she went backwards in this whole process. my wife works 3-4 days per week and i work 5-6 days per week. we recently had a new baby (5 months old). do you think the whole process of my wife being pregnant and the new baby around has caused her to regress? we have been trying now for 1 1/2 years now and we are out of answers.
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Narmin Parpia
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Username: Narmin
Post Number: 4
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 06:09 pm: | |
Your daughter definitely seems to have been impacted by the new addition to your family. I say this because you indicated your daughter has gone backwards rather than made progress. Potty training is difficult enough. But when you add a major change like a new baby into the mix you have an extra challenge.
There is hope though. You mentioned that your daughter will respond to rewards and will go in the potty until she earns the reward. More importantly you mentioned that after earning the reward she goes back to peeing and pooing in her diaper. This tells me that she knows what needs to be done but she is choosing not to do it.
My question to you is "Why is she still wearing a diaper at that point?" It is important to put her in big kid underwear (not pull-ups) as a part of the training process.
The problem with leaving your daughter in a pull-up is, you are sending her a mixed signal. She knows it is O.K. to pee and poo in her diaper (or pull-up), but now you are asking her to go in the potty. So, if you are letting her wear the diaper, you are sending a mixed signal - - one that says it is O.K. to use the diaper.
So, it really is that simple. Eliminate the diaper. Make a big deal out of putting her in big kid underwear. Use a reward system that has proven successful in the past. And don't return to diapers.
One other tip, make sure your child care provider is consistent with your efforts.
Hang in there. You are sooooo close!
Good luck, and please let me know how it works out.
Narmin |
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