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Roxanne Rickman (Unregistered Guest)
| | Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 11:40 am: | |
My little one will urinate in the potty but will not poop. However she will only poop standing up. It does not matter if she is wearing a diaper, a pull-up, undies, or even if she is naked.
I have read the article on encopresis and I do not think that it applies to her, or that she is scared to go on the toilet. Nor is she constipated. I know that she understands what it means to poop and pee and can tell the difference between the two feelings.
I have read all of your articles on resistance and it is not any of the following:
Cunfusion
Curiosity
Anxiety
Physical pain
But I do think there is a possability of the following:
Independence and control issues
Too much presure to perform'
And lastly, I think this is the most likely candidate:
Preoccupation with something more interesting
I have not taken her to the doctor yet because I want to make sure and rule out the behavioral problems first. I do strongly feel that it is the preoccupation because she does not fight with me about going potty. She will just sit there and talk to me, but not go. Most of the time she will ask if she can go back to whatever she was doing before or wants to go play.
I am looking forward to hearing your feedback. |
Narmin Parpia
| | Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 12:59 pm: | |
Hi Roxanne,
Thank you for your post. It's great that you have narrowed down the problem by reading our articles. Hopefully we can help you pinpoint and resolve the problem.
Does your daughter express a strong desire to be independent and in control in other areas throughout the day? In other words, are there things in her environment she just insists doing her way? How do you handle these situations? Or is she adventurous and tries new ways to accomplish the same task? Some toddlers learn to do a task one way and just won't let go of that approach. They like consistency and routine. With that in mind, here are some things to try (if you haven't already):
1. Keep a journal of her potty routine (BM times, activity, last meal and drink). Does your daughter tend to poop shortly after eating? Does she tend to have a BM after running or playing?
2. Determine her most precious currency. Remember, it will change as she matures and her interests change - how quickly our little ones grow!
3. Determine what is distracting her (the preoccupation issue you mentioned). For example, does she tend to watch TV shortly after eating and does this coincide with her BM routine?
4. Plan your attack and go for it! Schedule a few days when you can dedicate time to the issue without feeling rushed. When it's her usual time for a BM, eliminate the distractions, motivate with rewards (positive consequences), and apply consequences for undesired behavior. For example, if she frequently poops 10 minutes after a meal, don't let her engage in the distracting activity and/or withhold the "reward" until she demonstrates the desired behavior (in this case, she poops in the potty). Be firm, consistent, and patient.
Please note, this approach assumes your child meets all the readiness criteria discussed on our site. In addition this approach does not address the issue of performance anxiety, which could be closely related to emotional and social preparedness. How old is your daughter? Are there other siblings in the home? Have there been recent disruptions to her routine such as a move, travel, a new school, or a new baby sister or brother? Sometimes a child will hold on to the routine or habit they can control as a result of other areas of their life changing.
And finally, watch for signs that might conflict with your theory of a behavioral issue just in case you are dealing with a medical issue and address this with your pediatrician.
Good luck, and please give us an update from time to time.
Narmin |
Roxanne Rickman (Unregistered Guest)
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 11:07 am: | |
Narmin,
Thank you for those suggestions. I will apply them and report my progress. |
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