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Tracy (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 03:04 pm: | |
My son is 27 months. At about 24 months, he would sit on the toilet and go pee when me or my husband would ask him. He went pee in the toilet 3 different times.
Now at 27 months he refuses to even sit on the toilet. I ask him if he has to go pee on the toilet and he says "NO". Fine...I don't want to pressure him.
So one night I am giving him and sister a bath together. I put her in, then put him in and of course the warm water hits his feet and he starts to pee on sister. I pulled him out and put him on the toilet and said that's where you pee, not in the bathtub.
Now when I ask him if he has to go pee before we take a bath, he starts to cry and says no. Then when I put him in the tub, he holds himself because I think I scared him about not peeing in the tub.
I try to ask him other times besides the bathtime, but he says no. I don't want to force him and bring him to tears.
I really screwed up, scaring him away from the toilet 100%. How do I get him back to at least sitting on the toilet? I know he knows what to do on there. He even tells me when he goes Poop in his pants...most of the time. Where do I go from here?
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Michaelyn Dunaway
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Username: Michaelyn
Post Number: 11
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 17, 2007 - 03:35 pm: | |
Hi Tracy,
Thank you for your post. I feel your pain. As mothers we often do things and then go "oops"! Don't feel bad, I'm sure you are a great Mom!
For now, I wouldn't worry about getting him back on the potty. In fact, the more casual and relaxed you are the better. Give him time. Be sure he is truly ready to potty train before proceeding.
You mentioned your son can identify when he goes poop. That's great. It is often the first sign of nearing readiness. He also needs to go long periods with a dry diaper. For example, does he wake up from naps and in the morning with a dry diaper? If so, that's another sign of readiness.
I'd hang loose and wait until he is excited about it again. I'm sure you didn't traumatize him like you might think. And even if you did, kids are resilient and recover quickly. Their memories are short at this age too.
So keep smiling, relax, and enjoy the ride. He won't be little for long!
Thanks again for your post. And please give us an update when you can.
Michaelyn |
Anonymous
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2011 - 11:25 pm: | |
SUCCESS! Finally! My daughter is now 3 years and 3 1/2 months and just finally succeeded in potty training today. We had tried other methods like the 'Potty train in less than a day' method which didn't work for us. I think my daughter started fearing the potty when it sang a song at the first drop of pee. My theory is that scared her and she didn't want to have anything to do with it after that.
What we did on the first night was to give her 'choices'. We didn't give in to her tantrums and lovingly told her that she could either sit on the potty for 5 minutes when the kitchen stove alarm went off (which we set every 20 minutes) or go in time out. She had to obey even though she said 'I don't want to' multiple times. When she threw a fit we told her that if she didn't stop she'd go in time out. She went once, then began to comply. When she sat down on the the big toilet with a padded seat, we read books. She sat (piece of candy in mouth), but didn't do anything until she was about to burst. We told her she could either go in her underpants (and told her that we wouldn't be mad) or she could go on the potty. Those were her choices.
She wanted to go to bed then, so we put her to bed with an absorbant pad underneath her. She peed in her bed. We changed her and told her it was ok and we would try again tomorrow...all the while reminding her of all the things she would receive and how happy we would be if she made pee-pee in the potty. I went out while she was sleeping and bought a water/sand table for her to play with the next day on the potty.
She made it the whole night dry. We showed her her new play table, which I filled with warm water to get the sensation started, but she didn't want to once again. So, I put one of her brother's size 3 diapers in her little potty and put the seat over that. We laughed together about how funny that looked and she agreed to try. Here's another key: she always pooped in her diaper alone in the bathroom before so I asked if she'd like me to let her play alone and she said yes. I think the presence of an adult may stimulate them to the point that they can't relax enough to eliminate. So, I left her alone and voila! Success!
We made such a big deal about it and gave her gummies and hugs and kisses and basically paraded her around the house telling her what a big girl she is and now she can be with the other kids and go to preschool. She was so excited! She even pooped several times in her potty with a diaper there. I think that it gave her enough confidence and security to know that a diaper was there to 'catch' it for her even though it wasn't covering her completely. So, as promised, we later went to Walmart and bought her a big-girl bike - who knew potty training could be so expensive?? But, it was worth it.
We were going to wait until she said she wanted to, but I don't think that would have happened anytime soon. We didn't give in and she knew she wasn't going to win this time. We didn't go back to diapers for the night so she knew she couldn't hold it in until then.
Keep it up! Eventually, they all come around...whether they like it or not! |
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