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Dan (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 02:24 pm: | |
My boy is 3 and will sit on the potty and read, play leapster but wont poop, we have a reward waiting when he does. He hides when he goes, but wont go on the potty. He will only go in the diaper. There is some screaming and crying. We are not forcing just trying to get the rythym. He will spend an hour sitting on the potty but as soon as the diaper goes on he goes potty.
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Narmin Parpia
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Username: Narmin
Post Number: 8
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 17, 2007 - 03:09 pm: | |
Hi Dan,
Thank you for your post. I have a few suggestions but brace yourself. You may not want to hear them.
First, why is he able to go poop in his diaper? I mean, why is he in a diaper? You are giving him a choice of where to go poop since he knows it is OK to poop in a diaper. If he's wearing one, your sending a mixed signal. Switch to potty training pants.
Second, take away the activities. Boys are particularly sensitive to the issue of distraction. If they have something they are busy with, such as a book or video game, the last thing they want to do is stop the activity to deal with going poop.
Now, here comes the rest of the answer to your problem. Be sure you are setting up an environment to encourage him to go poop in the potty. Re-evaluate his chair, seat, and stool. Be sure you address issues of constipation and fear. These are all common sources for resistance.
And finally, be sure to let your son have time to go poop if he says he needs to. You sound like you're doing pretty good in this department just be sure you aren't requiring him to sit there if it isn't time. Use a chart for a few days and track his routine. Most people, even kids, have bowel movements at a specific time of day. Our systems are pretty consistent so find out what time he usually goes and watch for the opportunity.
I hope these suggestions will help. Good luck as you continue your journey potty training your son. Please let me know how he progresses.
Narmin |
Robyn McKelvey (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 11:07 am: | |
My sons are 4 and 3 they know when they soil there pull ups and want to be changed. I have bought big boys pants and 2 more potty chairs, books every one poops and everyone pees and elmo goes potty. when I put my boys in there cool big boy pants they run and hide and soil in there pants. How can I get my boys to use the bathroom insead of soiling themselves. Am I doing something wrong with them. I have potty trained my two older girls no problems. |
Michael Keck
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Username: Keckm1
Post Number: 1
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 10:25 pm: | |
hello recently my 2 1/2 year old who we have had trained for 3 mos is started to pee his pants regularly. at the sametime he is going through a stage where he is testing his boundaries qute often. I wonder could this have anythig to do with his terrible twos? Is there any advice anyone can give on what we should do ? |
Michaelyn Dunaway
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Username: Michaelyn
Post Number: 22
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Monday, February 04, 2008 - 01:22 pm: | |
Hello Michael,
Thank you for your post.
First, let me congratulate you on having your son trained so early! To all you other readers out there, yes, it is possible!
Now, for the hard part. Michael, you are probably right. your son's desire to assert his will and explore boundaries is likely the cause of your recent challenge (his regression). A child's desire to be independent will often carry over to the potty training arena, and sometimes it doesn't go the direction we want it. However, it is important to eliminate a couple of other common causes for regression, including change, or possible urinary tract infection, before settling on the "terrible two" idea.
Once you're sure you are dealing with a control issue rather than regression sparked by a change or some other reason, you might want to consider taking a bit of a break. The "terrible twos" aren't just a figment of our imagination. Children go through a developmental stage where they want to master their own environment, and this includes mastering their own body. Taking a break can give your son the opportunity to choose to control his accidents.
One more idea - - are the accidents infrequent or is there a pattern? If your son is only occasionally having accidents, could it be that he is resisting potty breaks because he doesn't want to stop his activity long enough to go? Try reassuring him you will let him return to his activity.
Give it a try. Keep calm, and good luck! Please let me know how it goes.
Sincerely,
Michaelyn |
Foster mother (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Friday, February 29, 2008 - 12:19 am: | |
I am the foster mother of a 3 little brothers age 9 months to 3 years old.
The older one will be 4 in May and the second oldest will be 3 in April.
The oldest was placed with me after the baby. When he came I was told by day care that he was toilet trained, but by former foster parents and social worker, that he had no interest in using the toilet. He showed no interest in using the toilet and I let the issue rest for 3 months and he was wearing pull ups. Then the second brother was placed with me and I started asking him to go to the bathroom, which he never wanted to do. He never wanted to change his pull up , but as soon as he was on the changing table ate it up. The therapist told me to treat him like a baby in this respect what I did, but after 3 months I was emotionally no longer able to pretend, that the huge poop on this boys butt was a baby's butt and poop. I tried rewards, I tried stickers. He would either make a few attempts and collect the reward and then pee and poop in his pull up. So 3 weeks ago I decided, that both boys will be wearing underwear.
The older one was not happy about this change. He likes the comfort of peeing and pooping into his diaper. He shows no signs of discomfort even if he poops or pees in his underwear. 1/4 to 1/2 he shows interest by himself other than that others do the work for him.
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