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Anonymous
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 25, 2007 - 03:47 pm: | |
Hi,
I have a 3 year old girl who was potty training within a week with only 2 wetting accidents. Peeing on the potty is fine, but she absolutely refuses to poop. She will not go in her underwear or her pull up diaper. She holds it for days until my husband and I are forced to give an enema, which by the way is most unpleasant for us all. We have tried everything, even bribing her w/ a bicycle, which is now just sitting in our garage hence she won't go poop. How can I convince her that the potty is not scary to poop on? I am at wits end. HELP |
Michaelyn Dunaway
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Username: Michaelyn
Post Number: 15
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 30, 2007 - 01:33 am: | |
Thank you for your post.
I understand your concern about your daughter's resistence to using the potty to go poop. She is obviously just not comfortable enough at this point.
I encourage you to return to diapers and cease using the enemas. Your daughter (and you) are likely traumatized by the process and it is probably only compounding the problem.
Instead I suggest loading your daughter's diet up with fiber and water. Choose foods such as fresh fruits, raw or steamed vegetables, and whole grains. Avoid foods such as cheese, bananas, refined flours and white rice.
Give your daughter a chance to relax and take a break from the whole process. You won't be able to convince her the potty isn't scary. She will have to figure this out for herself.
To help, work with her in baby steps. Let her get a comfortable poop routine down using the diaper. Once you know her system is functioning and she is going on a routine basis, encourage her to poop in her diaper somewhere in the bathroom (instead of behind the sofa or wherever she typically goes). Let her stand or sit wherever she is comfortable as long as it is in the bathroom. When she finishes, show her how to flush the poop down the toilet. (Save this step for later if she freaks). Stay there with her to reassure her she is safe. Then the next day or so, move to having her sit on the potty in her diaper (with the lid closed) to poop. The next step would be to let her sit on the potty with the lid open - - still in her diaper - - to poop. And finally, she should be ready to poop on the potty without a diaper.
Take your time. Fear is not usually something you can reason a person out of. Not even an adult. You just have to hold their hand and walk them through it bit by bit.
Good luck! And thank you for your post.
Please give us an update when you can.
Sincerely,
Michaelyn |
Anonymous
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 28, 2009 - 06:28 am: | |
i agree with the advice that was given. my son would hold his poop and he ended up on a laxative to go. 5 years later we still struggle with accidents due to him loosing control of his muscles that control bowel movements. all because he held his poop |
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