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Melissa (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Saturday, April 28, 2007 - 09:31 pm: | |
Hi!
Here's our story.
We started potty training our 2 1/2 year old little girl this week. I have read the readiness indicators and if anything, I feel we may have waited too long. We waited because we moved to a new house 6 months ago, then a big girl bed, and then her baby sister was born 3 months ago. That was a lot of change for her so I wanted to wait until after all of the craziness had died down and I had time to really focus on potty training. Well, after reading many other posts, etc. I believe I may have chosen the wrong method at first (asking her to sit on the potty at regular intervals). My daughter is very independent and would balk and shout No most of the time when I told her/asked her to sit. But the only reason I was doing this was because she would go in her underwear or on the carpet (have accidents) and not care- so I thought she needed reminders. Anyway, I think I have come to the conclusion that she does much better on her own (listening to her own body signals about when she needs to go). That being said, she is doing pretty well with peeing in the potty. Although we are having some accidents, she is certainly capable of it. Our concern is with #2. Ever since she was about 18 months she has gone in another room or behind the couch to go #2. She has never gone #2 in the potty. She knows she should go on the potty, and we've talked up rewards if she does (big ice cream cone at the ice cream shop, and more recently we upped the ante with the promise of a bracelet). However, when she has to go- she tells me to be quiet, usually runs in another room away from me, and refuses to listen to me if I try to reason with her. "Amanda, let's go in the potty. Mommy will help you." She freaks out in an irrational way, screaming NO hysterically and running away. Since we've begun training, she has been waiting to go poop until she is wearing a diaper (either before or after nap or when she has it on before or after night time). Thus, we are going to go cold turkey on the diapers/pull ups for nap and overnight and hope for the best. We need to address the poop issue head on- so here goes. Any advice? I've asked her why she is afraid to poop on the potty and she can't really tell me.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. We are certainly going through control issues in other areas with her (getting her to do things like brush teeth, put on clothes, etc) |
Michaelyn Dunaway
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Username: Michaelyn
Post Number: 16
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 30, 2007 - 01:49 am: | |
Hi Melissa,
I can understand your frustration. Particularly when you mentioned the control issues such as brushing of teeth, getting dressed, etc. The two's can be really tough but look out because the three's are next and they don't get any easier.
But take heart - I don't think you waited too long. Your reasons for waiting were more than adequate. Potty training a child is tough enough without adding to it the stress of a move or a new sibling.
Kudos to you since you have decided to get rid of the diapers and pull-ups. They only confuse a child that is potty training. Be sure to use good mattress protection, nice, padded training pants, and a great carpet and floor cleaner.
As far as moving forward, keep in mind she may know what she needs to do but just isn't comfortable doing it on the potty. Does she use a potty chair or the big toilet? Make sure she has a comfortable environment that gives her a flat-footed sitting position so she can comfortably push and/or sit for a few minutes until she can relax to go.
Watch for signs of fear. If it becomes clear that fear is the issue, remember, you cannot logic through it. Let her go back to diapers until she returns to a normal schedule and try again.
Thank you for your post. Good luck, and please let us know how it goes.
Sincerely,
Michaelyn |
Beth Ruiz (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Sunday, July 15, 2007 - 07:29 pm: | |
Hi, I've been having poop trouble with my 3.5 old son. He was trained at the day care center at 2. The peeping area was fine, but something happened with the teacher, as he would come home and tell me she was a witch. As he'll be joining a school where he must have full control, I started today with a potty control chart. And it worked this morning. I'll keep you informed about his progress. Beth |
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