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sharon r. cobaugh
New member
Username: Srmsnoopy2
Post Number: 1
Registered: 01-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 15, 2008 - 08:41 pm: | |
I am struggling here. My son will be four in March, and although I've heard a million times"boys are usually later", I need help! Here's the thing: he knows when to go, and has spurts of using the potty proficiently. Then, there are days(more than I'd like) where he'll use the pullups. I've tried using underwear only(would up with a mess). underwear under puulups, awards, rewards, incentives, stickers...you name it. I try not to push him, on the other hand, I feel like I need to keep reminding him. I'm so sick of everyone having a negative comment about the fact that he's not totally trained.
A tid bit that could help you all help me: Dad was home with him his first two and a half years and never initiated any kind of potty training. Recently, dad and I have separated and boy is with me. He's at a sitter during the day, and he's off and on with her. I kind of feel behind and discouraged because I'm doing everything I can, and I swear if I had the equipment, I could've had this already! Any advice would be welcome. Sorry I got so lengthy |
Narmin Parpia
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Username: Narmin
Post Number: 15
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 - 02:12 pm: | |
Hello Sharon,
Thank you for your post. I can understand your frustration.
My recommendation is probably something you already know. You need to give up the pull-ups and diapers. Your son needs a clear indication he is expected to use the potty, and leaving him in pull-ups is sending him a mixed message.
To minimize the mess, go ahead and use the padded potty training pants, or the waterproof vinyl training pants for added protection. However, realize that these options are not designed to act as diapers and cannot hold more than one accident.
It is key to conduct dry pants inspections on a regular basis, and reward your son when he succeeds at staying dry. If he is wet, immediately change him. The positive spin on the training (rewarding for dry pants) often does the trick in difficult situations.
Finally, as I'm sure you realize, the change in home life definitely has an impact on training. So, do what you can to maintain consistency. Chat with the sitter and Dad, if possible, and make sure you are all using the same approach.
I wish you the best of luck! Hang in there! Your son will learn sooner than you think.
I'd love to hear an update when you have the time to post again.
Sincerely,
Narmin |
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