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Laura (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Thursday, March 27, 2008 - 03:54 pm: | |
My son is three years old. Yesterday was the big day and we did everything by the book for one day training. The only difference was his older brother had to be home. Older brother was great and into it. However, not once did my three year old go anything in the potty. Accidents every half an hour or so despite sitting for ten min, at a time at 15 min. intervals. He loved the doll - seemed to get the whole concept and has been watching his big brother go for about a year now. His big brother was trained in two days at nearly 4 years old. We had waited with him since he's had some developmental delays. I thought the second one would be easier! Could he possibly not be ready? What do I do now? |
Narmin Parpia
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Username: Narmin
Post Number: 16
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 27, 2008 - 04:09 pm: | |
Hi Laura,
Thank you for your post. Age has nothing to do with potty training readiness. It's all about developmental readiness. So, yes, it is possible your son is not ready.
However, I would encourage you to consider the difference between his progress on day 1 versus day 2. If your son did fine on the first day, meaning toward the end of the day he had minimal accidents and even self-initiated, but on the second day he completely regressed, I'd consider the presence of big brother to be the culprit.
Don't be discouraged. If you feel a break would be beneficial, take a few days, or even a week or two off. Then resume your efforts. When big brother returns home, ask him to let little brother have some room to handle this project on his own. Sometimes the little ones get frustrated when the big ones want to "help".
You're doing a great job! Just keep your 3 year old child's perspective in mind and you will be just fine.
Good luck, and please, let us know how it goes.
Sincerely,
Narmin |
Anonymous
| | Posted on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 12:55 pm: | |
We bought your book and the various accesories and did "How to Potty Train Your Child in One Day" yesterday. My daughter did pretty well yesterday, went unprompted 3-4 times and only had 2 accidents during the day. Today, however, she seems more reluctant to sit on the potty and resists when we ask her to try and hasn't self initiated at all today. Because of this, I'm afraid to leave the house with her for fear she'll have an accident out of the house. How do I get her to really go unprompted and when do you suggest I start taking her out in public again? |
Michaelyn Dunaway
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Username: Michaelyn
Post Number: 29
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 08:49 pm: | |
Hello,
Thank you for your post about your daughter's second day. Hopefully, the following suggestions will help.
First, remember that self-initiation might take a few days. Ease into it by using phrases that, at first, are definite, clear prompts such as "it's time to go potty now". Then move to more subtle prompts such as "Have you gone potty in a while?", or "It's time to go shopping, should we go potty first?" Or even, "Before we go shopping I'm going to go potty." Then wait to see if she picks up on the hint. Eventually she will get used to the routine.
Next, you might want to shift from celebrating when she uses the potty, to celebrating when she has a dry day. Communicate to her your expectations and explain that she will earn the special reward when she has a dry day. Just be sure you still praise her for using the potty, especially if it is self-initiated. By rewarding a dry day (or even half day), you put the responsibility on your daughter to recognize when she needs to go, and follow through with action.
And finally, be sure your daughter is wearing loose fitting clothing and she is comfortable going through the whole potty process independently. If she is struggling in this area it could be a reason she's not initiating as quickly as you'd like. In her mind, she may think she needs you there to help so she may be waiting for you to tell her when to go.
One last thing, don't be so afraid of an accident in public. What's the worst that can happen? As parents, we could over react to the extent that the child becomes traumatized. So, prepare yourself, and then move on with your normal day-to-day routine. By that I mean take a change of clothing for your child, wipes, zip top bags, etc. Going out of the house in big girl pants might just be the incentive your daughter needs to tell you she needs to go potty.
If all else fails, and she continues to have accidents and doesn't seem to self-initiate at all, consider a break and re-evaluate. Go back to step one and reassess her potty training readiness.
Good luck, and please let us know how it goes.
Michaelyn |
Stacy Laibach (Unregistered Guest)
Unregistered guest
| | Posted on Saturday, July 26, 2008 - 06:55 pm: | |
My son is 3 1/2 yrs old and has never shown an interest in the potty. We are just starting to potty training and I am already banging my head against the wall. He is very oppositional, does not understand the reward aspect (i.e. earning m&m's for even trying) and he isn't willing to sit for long periods of time. From what I'm reading, he's "ready". Why doesn't it seem that way? What can I do to help him have an interest? |
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