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Anonymous
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 27, 2008 - 10:54 am: | |
Hi...
My 3 year old son was doing great right before his 3rd birthday. We were able to get him to pee and poop in the toilet before. Not on a consistant basis, but we thought he just needed to master the skills. A year ago he happened to get really sick and was hospitalized. During that time he was catherized and they actually hurt him! Ever since then we really can't get him to do anything in the bathroom. He gets hysterical in the bathroom, asking if it is going to hurt! I feel horrible thinking he has trauma from the incident in the hospital, but our pediatrician says he probably doesn't remember that and that when he is ready he will go! He always says "no" if we ask to go on the potty. We ask if he wants to be a "big boy", but he says no to that too! I am getting frustrated because we are trying to be positive and consistant but are getting nowhere! Please help us!!
JC in Arizona |
Kelly Schwartz (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, March 25, 2009 - 02:54 pm: | |
Sometimes it is a power issue, and it sounds like it probably is with him. My daughter is 3 and a few months ago we went through the same thing - similar at least. Our lives revolved around her fear of pooping due to pain. She would go days where she couldn't even sit on her bottom she was holding it in so hard. It was terrible. She would totally freak out anytime we even ASKED if she wanted to try and use the potty for either pee or poop. I finally took her to the dr who instructed us to feed h er a high fiber diet so that her stools can be softer. I also bought her the book 'It hurts when I poop' which taught her how poop works and that she is not the only one with this problem. A similar approach may work for your son if you can talk about how it doesn't hurt when he pees in his diaper, it won't hurt when he puts he pee in the potty either. My daughter now poops - in her diaper only - with no pain or fear. However, she still refuses to poop on the potty and everything I have read says it is simply a power issue there. I stopped asking for a few months and now we are "training" again. I let her know that it is HER decision if she wants to "try" (we stress that it is trying rather than doing so that she is not disappointed if she fails, as that will surely happen when they first try to use the potty) and that we are proud of her even if she can't go on the potty because at least she is trying. After changing HOW we address it, she decided on her own to "try" and successfully went pee on her own potty. She doesn't always want to try, but I think we are making progress. I hope that helps.} |
Anonymous
| | Posted on Thursday, March 11, 2010 - 05:28 am: | |
My daughter is going to be 3 yrs old, she doesnt want to go in the potty. I tried removing her pull up & put her big girl undies, but she was so adamant that she started to cry saying that it is shame - shame. I am worried can you please suggest some ideas how should i go about it. |
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