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My Sunshine
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Username: Mysunshine
Post Number: 1
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, June 19, 2008 - 11:54 am: | |
I will try to keep this short but it's been a long journey already. My daughter who will be four in two months refuses to poop in the toilet. She is 100% pee trained and has even been dry at night in her underwear. Last fall we tried to poop train her and she refused to go in the toilet. She held it in and ended up at the doctors and having two enemas which was one of the worst experiences I've had as a parent. She was put on stool softner which helped but she still refused to go and continued to poop in her underwear so we switched her back to diapers. Well it's been over 8 months since then so decided to try again (especially since she's now almost four years old). The same thing happened. She held it for days and we had to give her an enema after she complained of bad stomach pain. She is back to pooping in her underwear or diaper. She says she is afraid but I don't understand why as she is not at all afraid to pee in the toilet. She's not afraid of public restrooms and uses the big potty by her own choice. We tried stickers, treats, bribes of taking her somewhere fun and buying her a pet fish. None of this is enough to make her want to do it. We now have reading time on the toilet for 20 minutes a day or whenever she is acting like she needs to go. I try to not mention it and just read so as not to pressure her about whether she is going or not. But she still doesn't seem to want to do it. She says she wants to be a big girl but I am not sure if she is just saying that because that's what we want to hear.
Do you have any suggestions? We are both super frustrated and feel she is too old for this now. She totally understands what is going on with her body as for several months she would just wear underwear and just ask me for a diaper whenever she needed to defecate. I'm afraid there might be more to the issue than I realize. Is it a power struggle to her? She seems so stubborn about it. She says she is scared but doesn't act scared. I'm very confused and just want to help her in the right way.
Please send some good advice my way! |
KathleenLou (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Sunday, January 03, 2010 - 09:02 pm: | |
My experience is similar to this. My son is doing great at peeing, but is "scared" to poop. We have tried EVERYTHING...bribes, withholding treats, taking away TV, buying him movies that he can watch once he has done it...Now we are trying no TV, but I think it has sent the wrong message as he hasn't pooped since we started it (4 days). I think he thinks that because we said that we don't want him pooping in his pants anymore that he thinks we are saying "don't poop" the only way he will (poop on the potty or don't poop). I have tried to explain to him that if he chooses to poop in his pants that is fine, but he won't get TV. But I don't think he is making the connection as we hoped. He knows when he needs to poop because he goes to the same spot and tells us to go away. Any tactics on this one you could share? |
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