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Danielle (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Friday, February 20, 2009 - 10:39 am: | |
My 3 yr old son does good with the potty at home, but he does not do very well at daycare. I have tried rewards and talking to the daycare lady, nothing is working. Any suggestions. |
Marisa (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, March 11, 2009 - 09:47 pm: | |
Hello. We have a 2 and a half year old that is potty trained at home. He does not hardly ever have accidents and goes by himself on the big potty. He poops and pees in the potty even if he's in the middle of doing something else. Like earlier, he was taking a bath and in the middle of the bath, he said that he needed to go potty, got out of the tub, and pooped in the potty. He's been potty trained like that for a few months now and has been wearing underwear since June of 2008, so almost ten months. Anyway, so he does great at home so we started him up in preschool back in September. At every major transition, he does regress for a couple days and has a few accidents but then he gets right back on track. Major transitions include different teachers, different classes, holidays...things like that. After he adjusts, he stops and goes back to normal, except this time. We pulled him out of the preschool he was in and put him in another one because we felt like the other one didn't offer enough structure for him. They were saying that he wouldn't listen to them etc, but they never disciplined him in any real manner - like no time-outs or anything like that. At home, he knows there are consequences when he does something that he's not supposed to, so time outs work well for us at home. Anyway, so we put him in another preschool after talking to the director and she understood our situation, or so she said. Okay, so last week was our son's first week at the new school. The first two days, he had a few accidents but by the third day, he didn't have any accidents, so we thought great - he's adjusting really well. Even the teachers said that he was adjusting well and that the timeouts were working to get him on track in class. This is the second week and he's having a heck of a time with accidents, but what the teachers are telling me is that he acts like he has to go potty, so they take him to the restroom. He sits on the potty, but refuses to go. Then when he pulls his pants back up, he wets himself. He had three accidents today alone which is very unlike him. I'm not sure what to tell them but they're trying to tell me and my husband that he's not potty trained and that we need to put him in pull ups. We refuse to put him in pull ups because we don't want to send mixed messages to him. Please help me figure out what to do...I'm at my wits end with everything. |
Narmin Parpia
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Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, March 20, 2009 - 07:07 pm: | |
Marisa,
First relax. Those are some big changes for a 2 year old to deal with.
Did you talk to him about changing schools?
Did you do some practice runs at the school with him before you dropped him off?
These are important things to consider when you are changing his world. He sounds like he is regressing due to the changes.
Get him on a schedule that works with the preschool. See what they are doing different than you are doing at home and work out a plan of action. Talk to the teacher about what you can do to make this transition easier.
You need to take some time and do practice runs with him at the school. At the beginning of each day when you drop him off, go put his stuff down and go to the bathroom. Don't rush him, i know that sometimes when their are other kids waiting or we are in a hurry we can rush the children which can make them nervous. See if you being in there you can tell why he is refusing to use it. Most times when you get down to their level the reasons are easier to see.
I wouldn't recommend putting him back in diapers, try a Waterproof Training Pant.
Also take a look at the potty training books we have; there are sections on Daycare and Regression in most of them. I personally continue to use these resources because they have a wealth of knowledge and support. |
Nicole Simpson (Unregistered Guest)
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| | Posted on Thursday, July 15, 2010 - 10:29 am: | |
Hello! I'm so frustrated right now and I'm not sure what to do!
My son is almost 2 1/2 years old. Right before his 2nd birthday we introduced the potty chair. His potty is musical and plays music whenever he's pees. He was very excited however the daycare does not begin potty training until 2.
So at 2 he was placed in the 2-3 yr old room. He was excited about the potty because the older kids were doing it! We continued to reenforce at home and he was doing well. I then became aware that the director disagreed with the teacher introducing the potty to the 2 year olds and that they weren't ready until they could state that they needed to go potty. My concern is if you aren't encouraging potty use then how will he know to he should go. The director then removed all the "non-potty trained" children into another class. My son wasn't receiving as much support towards potty-training but it was still being initiated. However, recently they added 18+ mos children to his class because they lost a teacher, which I was not made aware of and now he has started refusing to go potty at all. I have come to his class and seen them changing him on a changing table which is so counterproductive. He wears pull-ups and knows how to pull his pants down and up. Even when he poo's we have him stand up to wipe him clean.
I'm not sure how to approach the situation with the school. I have started using rewards for him at home but many times he refuses to go potty unless he actually sees the reward and then he will potty to get the rewards, sometimes.
My main concern is that he was doing so well and then completely went to a stop once the little ones came to his class.
Please help! |
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