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| | Posted on Friday, March 06, 2009 - 07:14 pm: | |
My daughter is 2 1/2 and she shows all the right sings of being ready to potty train. She tells me when she pees or poops in her diaper and asks for new ones. She loves to wear her big girl panties around the house. However, she absolutely hates going anywhere near the potty with her own booty. She will not sit on it at all. She screams, cries, kicks and whines for a diaper. She will do that for as long as it takes for me to put a diaper back on her. Im really confused as to why she seems to wnat to be trained but hates the potty? Thanks |
Narmin Parpia
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| | Posted on Friday, March 20, 2009 - 05:44 pm: | |
Excerpts taken from The Everything Potty Training Book
Any kind of frightening potty experience can cause your child to have a potty training setback.
That could be things such as:
* falling off the potty or thinking he might
* falling in the toilet or imagining that he could
* have a bad dream about being on a potty
* being startled by a shout or slap while on the potty
* hearing a loud noise while thinking about the potty
* seeing Mr. Clean leap out of a toilet bowl in the TV commercials terrorizes many, many tots.
When you're two years old, fantasy and reality blur all too easily, so it's easy to think that Jaws lives in the bowl and then believe it's true.
After imagining some dire catastrophe, your child may refuse to go near the potty. If you press, he may become so hysterical that to insist would be to traumatize him further.
Toilets in public restrooms can be a real problem. The automatic kinds flush without warning. They are noisy, the water agitates violently, and the whoosh as the water is sucked away can be as loud as a vacuum cleaner, as if to warn him that he could be next.
Carrying a portable potty (or a /link{http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/CTGY/Travel-Potty-Chair.html, Travel Potty}) that your child can use in the car may solve the problem until he's over a public restroom phobia.
However, the rest of the world's toilets may still seem unpredictable and dangerous. If he decides the one at home is out to get him, you've got a real problem.
Here are some things you can try:
* If your child's fears center around the toilet, see if he will use a potty chair.
* If he had scare on his potty chair, try switching to a potty seat.
* Try dropping the word "potty from your vocabulary.
* Maybe he need to "visit Henrietta" and "sit on her lap," or see if Mrs. Tank is "hungry" or "needs a drink."
* Tie a ribbon or bow tie around its neck, affix a face with masking tape to the lid, and affix stickers inside the bowl above the water line.
* If that does not help, stop all practice sessions for a month to give your child time to forget. Do not even mention the potty.
If your child has seen Mr. Clean leap from the bowl on TV or has heard the day care rumor that tigers, dinosaurs, or spiders live in toilet water, open the tank so he can see what's inside (too small for a tiger, that's for sure).
Demonstrate how to flush from inside the tank by lifting the lever, so that he can watch how the water rushes through the tiny hole (too small for a tiger, that's for sure) then stops when the tank is full.
Show him where the water leaves the toilet bowl through the little pipe in the back (too small for a tiger, that's for sure).
When logic does not work (though, sometimes it does), try standing your toddler on a stool next to the toilet so he is far enough away when he urinates to be out of harm's way.
Girls can stand both for urine and bowel movements by putting one foot on each side of the toilet seat and bending their knees slightly so they do not make a mess.
However, while you keep watch for tiger, hold your child tightly so she doesn't fall in. Since neither tiger nor Mr. Clean ever show faces to adults, you should also sit on the toilet, spread your legs and hold your child on your lap while he uses it. |
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